fareedyjob321: Exactly what No One Tells A person About (Muslim) Marriage Events
Exactly what No One Tells A person About (Muslim) Marriage Events
Singles, singles and more Muslim singles... There are many them, in all shapes, measurements, races and with various qualifications. Yet, there doesn't seem to be to be one singleton sparking enough interest to express 'let's take this further and go for a coffee? ' So what's going wrong at these marriage events? Exactly how do single Muslims get married these days?
Typically the hush voices and the deafening awkwardness is unavoidable as the singles wait around for the event to start. single Muslims
I wact a film tiresomely introduce themselves again and again. I see some public losing interest, playing on their phone or leaping onto their social media lives. I even experience many bromances and womances blossoming prior to my eye... huh?
Eventually when the intros are over, alleviation... Phew! Then the dissatisfaction hits. Why? Because there's no-one you want approach! You scroll down the set of names and still nobody captures your interests or is remotely like the person you want to get married to! You get to the end of the listing and start again wishing you overlooked someone, you realise you haven't and the stifled despair is clear to see... argh!
50 percent the people you've met you don't even remember, a lot of people turned up late and missed the intros altogether! Clearly creating a good first impression isn't important for all those trying to meet your soul mate!
After much consideration and deliberation the singles send some requests or accept 'requests to meet' for a one-to-one conversation.
These one-to-one discussions can make you speechless at the lack of 'conversation'! At the other conclusion of the spectrum, astonishingly some singles are prepared to drop their lives, marry and move in with you tomorrow! It makes you wonder, what on earth just happened?!
Lonely hearts walk away from these one-to-ones feeling completely underwhelmed. The brothers talk at the sisters, hoping something someone said would hook up with them. While the sisters' preferred approach is a aggressive and uncensored interrogation of the brothers' past associations and haraam (prohibited) activities... Awkward much!
Despite putting yourself through all of that and with little luck in meeting someone suitable, how do singles get married these days... or is it that they just don't?!
Some have been trying to get married for years. They go to marriage events and use online marriage websites yet they're still struggling to find 'the one'. There is a saying they're okay with it but their feeling of eliminate is palpable.
The friends either don't really know what they want or they presume the sisters are too fussy. Whereas the sisters think the brothers are premature, untrustworthy and irresponsible... ouch!
Singles with no 'requests to meet' make a quick exit hoping no-one notices. And some cling on to hope that someone will speak to them at some point.
I watch the big event organisers keen to see the lonely hearts find marriage, seek away singles and personally established up a 'request to meet' along with other singles. However it takes some coaxing, cajoling and a huge dollop of luck to make this happen.
Unfortunately sometimes there are also after-effects of these activities... There are some siblings who can't take no for an answer and think following a single Muslimah (Muslim woman) to the bus stop or tracking her down on social media is a good move... Stalker much!!
It simply leaves me with problem: how many brothers and sisters exchange numbers (not including bromances or womances) and actually take the next step to meet again?
So how does it leave these singles... Do Muslim singles learn how to 'date' halal? Are usually they at these activities because they would like to be there? Or can it be because their siblings, friends and friends are getting married and they feel left right behind!
These marriage events are a great source of conference other singles. They've efficiently paired thousands of married people. But are singles taking full good thing about them?
Are usually the singles buying spark or even an suspicion of one? Is that inquiring for too much as a first meeting? Therefore does that then suggest love at first view is out of the question?